Gift of Friendship

We all probably only can count five or six people in our lifetime who we consider as best friends forever. A true friend is hard to find. Someone who is not judgmental, always there for you, comforting when you most need an ear to listen to you, but they are not someone you will find very easily. It’s a natural occurrence that develops and just materializes, until someday you think, “Hey I have a best friend!”

A true friend is your biggest fan, to spend time with, to share secrets with, and to be there in sickness and health. We all need a friend that we can laugh with, cry with, embrace, and share experiences with, someone who tells you the truth when it could be staring you in the face but you don’t want to acknowledge it. That is when you are in need of a true friend, when the chips are down, the way forward is cloudy, and you need a shoulder to cry on.

On a lighter note, when I get together with my true friends, we pick up where we left off. It could even be two, maybe three years later, but it feels like yesterday when we had the last laugh together.

We see / feel each other as true friends, for who we really are, vulnerable, real for each other, with no fakeness, no lies, open minded, as well as caring, nurturing, and supportive.

You share secrets with your friends that even transcend what your spouses know about you. True friends are irreplaceable, so value your friends as if they are rare because they are. Never take friends for granted. The utmost best friend is someone who you grew up with, who you shared experiences with, through puberty, emotional dramas, death. That shoulder when you needed it most to confide in is there in a true friend.

There are very intimate friendships between twins, triplets etc… that defy logic, where one compliments the other in an uncanny way, like finishing sentences, gestures that are mirrored, or how about when one sibling gets hurt the other one can feel it a distance away from visual view. Conjoined friends they are!

There are other types of friendships of course, please let me name a few; BFF, religious friend, parent friend, drunk friend, funny friend, emotional friend, supportive friend, friends with benefits, oops did I say thaaaaat? and so on and so on……….

Oh! The worst friends to have are the complaining friends, cheap friends, promiscuous friends, the attention seeker friend and so on and so on……..

So on it goes, the categories of friends are endless, just like a lifetime of friends that we sift through to find our one or two true friends are rare.

I have an enemy friend I hate so much and is soooo toxic. I just love being around this person in short bursts. I consider him / her an enemy friend because he / she (You’ll never know) is so exciting to be around. I don’t agree with this person, for this person is rude, crude, and so off the wall, but…. I like this person as my enemy friend for all the right reasons. This friend is no friend of mine but is a friend of mine. Do you have someone like that in your life? Someone you love to hate, but like to be around in short bursts?

Food for thought: Quote; Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.

Profound but true; Dogs are man’s best friend they say, so if you don’t have a best friend, get a dog. You can walk him night and day.